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N L P
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Neuro-Linguistic Programming
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Overview
NLP was born when a linguist called John Grinder and a
mathematician called Richard Bandler asked themselves a simple yet fascinating question:
What is it that makes the difference between somebody who is merely competent at any
given skill, and somebody who excels at the same skill?
People typically answer that question in one of two ways. Either that some people have
natural gifts or talents for a particular skill, or that practice and experience is
what counts.
NLP side-steps these answers by focusing not on what has made the difference in the
past between two people of different abilities, but on what can be done now to turn
the competent person's performance into one of excellence.
NLP proposes that there are three elements to any skill or behaviour.
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There is external behaviour. That is, what the person
actually does and says. |
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There is the person's internal computation. That is,
what they think, and the way in which they think. |
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There is the person's internal state. That is, what
and how they feel. |
Each of these three elements can be examined in detail. A movement, for example, can
be reduced to the level of micro-muscle movements. An internal image can be defined by
size, position, colour, clarity, contrast and so on. An internal voice by the words
themselves, tone of voice, volume, location and similar. A feeling can be described by
position, intensity, temperature, direction of movement.
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Modelling
By following this process, it is possible to build up and
extremely comprehensive model of any excellent behaviour. This model of excellence can
then be acquired by the competent person simply by reversing the process; the competent
person makes the same movements, images, voices, feelings. In some cases, we may need
to expand our model to include such things as beliefs and what NLP calls 'perceptual
filters'; the ways in which our past experiences affect the way we now perceive the
world.
Modelling need not involve somebody else. It is equally possible to model yourself.
Suppose, for example, that you feel nervous when you have to speak to a large group
of people. Instead of finding somebody who is a confident public speaker and modelling
them, you could simply find a different situation in which you feel confident (perhaps
talking to two or three people) and model yourself in that context.
NLP is the name given to a set of tools, techniques and approaches used to carry out
this transformation.
The type of modelling we have described has long been applied to the objective world.
Most of the science we now call engineering, for example, came about by people studying
what worked in natural structures, working out the principles involved and then applying
those same principles to new structures.
NLP simply applies the same process to excellence in people. It studies the underlying
structures of the skills, behaviours and experiences of excellence. And then assists
people in using those structures effectively. Thus NLP is sometimes defined as "the
study of the structure of subjective experience".
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Applications
NLP has been successfully applied to the fields of
business, sport, therapy, education and the performing arts. The tools it offers can
be applied equally well to any human activity.
In modelling examples of excellence in fields as diverse as hypnotherapy, tennis,
training, acting and team management. NLP has also developed a number of specific
models of excellence which are now considered part of NLP. Examples include a highly
successful phobia cure, an elegant format for resolving internal conflict, and an
impressive format for running streamlined meetings. These models are typically taught
as part of NLP training programmes. |
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Presuppositions
The work done using NLP has also resulted in a number
of attitudes, or presuppositions, which seem to be useful when aiming for excellence.
Note that NLP doesn't claim that these presuppositions are true, merely that it is
useful to behave as if they are.
The distinction is an important one. NLP doesn't insist that you change your beliefs
about the world; merely that you be prepared to experiment with other approaches. It's
rather like catching a train to an important meeting ... it may not be true that
British Rail timetables are unreliable, but - if it is important to be at the meeting
on time - it might be useful to behave as if they are, and phone first to check that
the train is running. |
Among the presuppositions normally presented on NLP training
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The map is not territory |
In other words, the description of an experiences is not
the same as the experience itself. We live in a world in which we pay a great deal of
attention to words. We often behave as if words were a direct and undeniably accurate
description of experience. NLP invites us to make a distinction between words, and the
experience they describe. |
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Choice is always better than no choice |
Most of us have an understanding tendency, when we succeed
in something, to view our successful approach as the 'right' approach to use in future.
NLP suggests that, even when we have behaviours that work perfectly, it is still useful
to have other options: to be able to choose from several successful behaviours. That way,
if one of them turns out not to work, we have other successful behaviours to call
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There is no failure, only feedback |
When things don't work out the way we'd hoped they would,
a common response is to consider that we 'failed'. NLP offers an alternative view. That
what actually happened is neither good nor bad, but merely information. Think back to
when you learnt to drive. You almost certainly crunched the gears at some point. That
didn't mean that you failed as a driver and would never be able to operate the gearbox:
it simply meant that changing gear in that particular way didn't produce the result
you wanted. You then used that information to improve the way that you changed
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The meaning of the communication is the response it produces |
This follows on from the previous presupposition. If our
communications don't produce the responses we would like, we can either decide that the
other person is to 'blame' for not responding appropriately, or we can simply accept that
our communication produced the result it did and decide what we would like to do now.
The first approach leaves us powerless: we are in the hands of the other person. The
latter approach enables us to treat the response as information, and change our own
behaviour accordingly. This places us in the powerful position of a flexible
communicator willing to take responsibility for achieving the things we would like. (We
use the word 'responsibility' in it's literal sense: the ability to respond). |
You'll hear quite a lot in NLP about three ways of doing
things. NLP takes the view that one option is (obviously) no choice at all, two options
is a dilemma and that choice begins only when you have a minimum of three approaches.
Having at least three powerful approaches to any goal, and being willing to use whichever
option is most appropriate at the time, is what NLP refers to as behavioural flexibility.
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Behavioural flexibility
One of the most powerful forms of behavioural flexibility
is what NLP calls 1st, 2nd and 3rd person shifts.
When we are experiencing things through our own eyes and ears, we are said to be associated,
or in the 1st person. If we now wonder how somebody else is experiencing, and 'put
ourselves in their shoes', we are said to be in the 2nd person. And if we see and hear
both ourself and other people if we were an observer, we are said to be dissociated or
in the 3rd person.
We all of us switch between 1st, 2nd, and 3rd person quite naturally, often without
really being aware that we're doing it. NLP teaches the skill of deliberately shifting
consciousness in this way in order to gather information - to literally see things from
another point of view.
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That name!
And where did that awful name come from? Despite the
numerous and amusing apocryphal stories, the truth is that the co-founders of NLP,
Grinder and Bandler, were in a log-cabin, high in the hills behind Santa Cruz, pulling
together the insights and discoveries that were to result in the book The Structure of
Magic. Towards the end of the marathon 36-hour session, they sat down with a bottle of
Californian white wine and asked themselves "what on earth shall we call it?".
Grinder says the result was "'Neuro' because the patterns we were discovering seemed
to operate at the level of our neurology, 'linguistic' because of the ways in which
our language patterns reveal and impact our neurology, and 'programming' because the
new discoveries enable us to break free of the way we have been programmed by
socialisation, and offers us new choices".
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